So the IRS (Internal Revenue Service) this past week ruled that they will treat jointly-filed federal taxes equally for both heterosexual and homosexual married couples — if the same-sex couple was legally married in one of the states that allows it — even if they currently live in a state that does not (e.g. Utah).
So — I decided unilaterally, that rather than wait until November to get married, as we had been discussing, that perhaps we should just bite the bullet and do it as soon as possible.
Consider it a life insurance policy.
Then the hoops began. We had planned on marrying in California, which has no waiting period, but also no appointments available for both the marriage license and the ceremony on the same day.
I discovered this after paying a non-refundable $100 fee to reserve a “time” in San Francisco to take out a license (I’m still not clear on where there is an additional fee for the license), only to discover that they don’t have any appointments available that week for the actual ceremony.
So — they have an option to have someone (legal US citizen, over the age of 18, non-felon) deputized for 24 hours to perform the marriage. Caveat: There can be no mention of god or religion in the ceremony, While this is not a problem for me, we were thinking of asking my honey’s TBM dad and that may be difficult for him.
I’m letting this all stew, having potentially lost the $100 reservation fee and decided to check our Minnesota — where marriage equality went into effect on August 1st. I have a brother that lives there, I will be going there on business next week, etc.
5-day waiting period.
Now I like Minnesota as much as the next person, but I do not want to spend 5 days there “waiting”.
I made another appointment to take out a license after I arrive there next Monday, but my honey cannot travel next week, so they have an exception process if only one of the couple can be physically present to take out the marriage license.
Paperwork downloaded, filled out and waiting be notarized. I will bring it with me to Minneapolis next week.
We then have 90 days to get married — in Minnesota.
Meanwhile, my cousin announces on Facebook this week that she is pregnant. And then 3 days later announces that she has gotten married.
The first thought that occurred to me after reading that: She didn’t have to leave the state to get married.